If you think there is such a thing as the “perfect relationship” and this is what you are seeking and looking for as a single man or women, well, sorry to burst your bubble but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. You could spend a lifetime seeking this perfection, but mark my words, you will not find it. You can look all you want but just like an impossible game of hide and seek. You will be seeking, but you will never be finding.
I learned from Christian Hudson, the creator of the Girlfriend Activation System, that trying to seek out perfection in imperfect beings (yes that is us, humans!) is just plain silly behavior. And why would you want perfection anyway? It’s okay to have some cracks and imperfections. It adds contrast, it gives character and makes things unique.
So screw perfection! That’s what I say. Pretend that it doesn’t exists (because it actually doesn’t) and then forget your quest to seek it out. Get rid of that garbage today! And you may be surprised at all the wonderful people you meet and suddenly you will find that getting into a fantastic relationship is much easier.
There is nothing wrong with having high expectations for what you want in a man or a women. But it’s when these lofty expectations become pure fantasy driven when you have to stop and reassess the situation you have found yourself in.
I personally used to also believe in perfection. I spend a large chunk of my 20s and 30s seeking this out. But I was constantly disappointed. It was only until about a year ago, when it was beaten into my thick skull that it simply does not exist. And that’s when I began dating again with new eyes. And I saw things differently.
Now I am in a deeply fulfilling relationship and I couldn’t be happier. Are they perfect? Heck no! Am I perfect? Absolutely! Only joking :)
But it doesn’t matter. Perfection is an unrealistic ideal and if you are still seeking it I urge you to drop this expectation as soon as possible. And when you do this, you will find that your life takes on a whole new and deeper meaning and you may be shocked at just how many amazing people there are in the world when you drop this expectation of “perfection”. You life will change the day you do this.